Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Book Review: You Don’t Love This Man by Dan DeWeese

you-dont-love-this-man-198x300  Title: You Don’t Love This Man
  Author: Dan DeWeese
  Genre: Fiction
  Year: 2011
  Acquired: Through TLC Book Tours, in exchange for an honest review
  Rating: 4 of 5 stars

  *I stole this above idea from Kathleen’s blog.

From Goodreads:
A novel about fatherhood, marriage . . . and bank robbery.
On the morning of his daughter Miranda's wedding, Paul learns that the bank he manages has been robbed—apparently by the same man who robbed it twenty-five years before. As if that weren't enough, Miranda, who is set to marry Paul's former best friend—a man twice her age—seems to have gone missing.

Struggling to reconcile his little girl with the grown woman he's about to walk down the aisle (if he can find her), to accept his onetime peer as his future son-in-law, and to comprehend the strange coincidence of being robbed by the same man two decades apart, Paul takes stock of everything leading up to this moment—as he attempts to navigate the day's many surprises while questioning the motives and choices of those around him.

My review:

I’ll admit, it took me a while to get into this book. I don’t read too many books from a male character’s point of view and it was hard to connect to Paul at first. He seemed a little self-centered and self-righteous, especially in dealing with his female co-workers. Gradually, as the story progressed, I began to absolutely fall in love with every part of this book. I grew to love Paul’s character, as a father who just wants what’s best for his daughter. He’s stuck in a cycle of mediocrity, divorced with an adult child and a lackluster career. As the book follows him through this day of dealing with a bank robbery and trying to find his daughter, he begins to reflect on how he got here -- from his career to his divorced status to befriending this guy his daughter is now marrying.

As I got used to the writing style and the dynamics between present-day and the past, I couldn’t put this book down. There was a powerful message hidden beneath the cover. While it was hard to relate to some aspects as I’m younger and female, there was an underlying message of life. It is what you make of it and past experiences can shape your tomorrow. It’s cliché, but it’s also incredibly true. Paul is discovering how silent he has been throughout his life and this is the first time he’s really stood up for what he believes in and wants.
I would recommend this book for anyone in search of a great book that stretches the bounds of regular fiction. It’s a book for someone searching to read something with a bigger, deeper meaning. For me, being 23 and on the verge of graduating from college and really beginning my adult life, it was a different perspective and view on things. It’s a book about fatherhood, it’s a book about life, and it’s a book about acknowledging the choices we’ve made and moving on from them.


  1. Sounds pretty interesting; not sure if it's something I'd want to read but the premise sounds rather intriguing! Thanks for the review!

  2. Sounds good to me, I'll have to add it to my library list!

  3. Oh sounds interesting! I'm curious about this one now :)

  4. Sounds very very interesting! I can't even think of marrying my dad's best friend.

  5. I'm reading this one & will be posting my review next week. Great review! I like the book, but I struggle with male authors... I just have a hard time w/ their point of view - like they tend to focus on sex a bit more than a female author would. And then the scenes w/ his female employee annoy me! But I am liking it and i wish I had more time to sit down and read it so I coudl figure out what happens!

  6. ooh! sounds like a good book, I'll have to stalk it and see if they have it at the library here! ;)

  7. that was a great review, it definitely made me interested in reading this if i can find it!

  8. I love that last line: "it’s a book about life, and it’s a book about acknowledging the choices we’ve made and moving on from them." I think that anyone could identify with Paul's character with that in mind.

    Thanks for giving this book a shot - I'm glad you got into even though it didn't capture you from the start.


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