Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Letters to My Future Husband: My Role As Your Wife
For awhile now, you have been the focus of my letters. I've written about what qualities and values I want you to have - trivial or not. I've written about how excited I am to meet you, but how I'm willing to wait until the time is right. But now it's time to talk about me. More specifically, it's time to talk about my role as your future wife.
One of my biggest aspirations in being your wife is to be someone who draws you closer to Jesus. I want to strengthen your faith, build it up, and keep you focused on Him. I don't want to make you doubt your faith. I see us attending Bible studies together, praying together, and sharing what God has done in our lives together. We are choosing to place God at the center of our relationship and I would never want you to cherish my feelings over His. I want to be able to place my feelings aside when it comes to what God is telling you. God first, in everything.
I want to be a good communicator. Right now, it's something I really need to work on because I tend to keep my feelings locked up tight, not letting on when something someone has said or done has hurt me. I want to get better at expressing my emotions and talking through my problems. I don't want to be the "typical female" who says she's fine when really, she wants to punch you in the face for that insensitive comment. Communication is such a huge part of any relationship, be it romantic or otherwise. This needs to be one of the cornerstones of our marriage. We need to be rock star communicators.
I want to have fun with you. I want you to be my best friend. All too often, I hear people complain about their significant others in derogatory ways. They bash their husbands and wives, talk down about them, and make me wonder why they even married them at all. I don't want to be that type of wife that goes running to my circle of friends to bash you whenever we have a fight. I want to respect our marriage, respect that we will have disagreements, and respect your role as the leader of our family. I want our marriage to look different than many of the ones I see on a daily basis. I want us to actually like each other as friends and want to be with each other.
All I know is that I'm really looking forward to becoming your wife. It's going to be my best role to date.
I can't wait to meet you.
I love you,